Category Archives: Neurolinguistic Programming
“A: Do you procrastinate?
B: I’ll have to get back to you tomorrow about that…”
We live in a world that demands much out of us. Every single day, there are things that are expected of us, that we have to deliver. Things such as work, expectations from family, and even things that we privately want to do but seem to have limited time resources to reach there. As a result, inner stress builds up, and it turns into us stepping into the dark side of our personality. Procrastination becomes a kind of solace.
I wake up to the tiredness that feels like a vice gripping my face almost every morning. Then, I remember that this is a small part of the process. I sit up, change my breathing, and think about what I’m grateful for. I immerse myself in the emotion that fills me when I think of those moments of gratitude, pick up a genuine smile, before I stand up to tumble to the washroom.
If you have always wanted to be more persuasive, influence others to the ways of your thinking and achieve impressions that win people over to your way of thinking, you really need to study the human psychology. Wouldn’t it be great to enhance the quality of your life simply through a shift in the psychology of people you can influence and impact?
General psychology is technical and takes years to learn as an academic subject. Even then, such psychology is not immediately applicable to your business. Instead, you can acquire much of that power and MORE through the study of Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP).
As an entrepreneur, I understand the worries people have in stepping into a world where there is no routine, there is not certainty, and there is not safety net for you to fall on. Most are concerned about how sure you can be when being an entrepreneur, and how clear one can be when being in a position to call the shots, even when the target board may not even be clear to shoot at.
If I were to start all over, I would have 3 key things to consider. And actually, I restarted in business just 4 years ago, after I had left my previous education business, so I had better pen these down while they are still fresh in my mind.
When you’ve just graduated and left the world of studying behind, you’re now introduced to the real world of learning. The next 10 – 15 years will determine how stable your life will be, and how much you will grow. And rather than “going with your gut” and trying something, I’d suggest strongly the following 5 things.
Not too long ago, a participant of mine asked me a question about why I always seem to be able to adapt to even difficult audience members and their questions, even if they sound seemingly scathing. In the context of an NLP seminar, I felt it was only appropriate to reiterate one of the core beliefs in NLP, which was to assume the positive intention of the client.
It may seem alien at first. The typical questions I get in response to this include, “what if the person is a mass murderer”, “but surely there are some people who are purely evil”, etc.
If you’re not already familiar with the concept of Learning Agility, it’s based on the research done by Lombardo and Eichinger across five key elements that shape a person’s ability to reflect, learn and apply learning experiences to other situations to achieve results.
I’ve been a trainer and psychologist for a number of years now. What strikes me is that there are many dark moments in research that set me thinking about how any organization can function without good leaders and managers. It is a constant fight to keep things at a natural, proactive and systematic equilibrium.
I chanced upon a recent study to show how a personal self affirmation of personal values actually helps to reduce stress but also manif3st better r3sulits in students. My thought was… “doh, took you so long to figure it out?”
Of course, I am being a little facetious. The point is that NLP still seems so far ahead of its time that psychology is trying to catch up. In spie of that, I find that the blend of both serves clients who need help much better.