New Beginnings and Updates on Empowered Evolution
Hey, everybody, welcome back to the blog. This is the first time I’m blogging and vlogging, for gee, 15 years, I guess. But I think it’s probably just about the right time for me to start putting all my thoughts into a blog, because I’m finally you’re going to realize what this entire process is it’s a process of self improvement process of self discovery, but also a reflective process. So it’s going to be slightly different from what I have on YouTube, YouTube is a little bit more instructional in nature, there’s going to be adlib, because, you know, I’m not going to be preparing everything, to speak and do a transcript prior to actually doing a recording.
So one of the key concepts that I’ve evolved over the years in my thought is, you know, I’ve always believed in empowerment, I mean, I used to run Patterns of Excellence, together with Adam back in the good old days, where we trade hundreds of thousands of people’s students, parents, all that kind of stuff. And one of the biggest differences, in my opinion is that empowerment, when coming from an external source is not necessarily as powerful as an internal realization, and driven by insight.
That’s one of the reasons why I do coaching.
And again, if you guys are interested in learning more about my coaching process, which runs over a year, then click on the button, click on the button, click on the button above, that’s a bit of a tongue twister, click on the button above, and give me a little bit of background information where you’re coming from. And let’s see whether I can work with you, right. At the end of the day, I think, for me doing free coaching and stuff like that, it’s always part of return mechanism, I want to make sure that society is balanced out. And I believe that there’s a very strong reason for that if I don’t have people who are balanced, they’re earning well, they are professionally growing, then the returns are not going to come back to me, right. So the success of my clients that I’ve been having over the last year, which has been phenomenal, by the way, has been the reason why I’ve also grown in confidence in creating more and more coaching content.
Any case, back to the original idea of reflections, I’ve realized that in the next maybe 10 to 15 years to come, which has already disappeared in the blink of an eye, I’m going to want to do a brain dump on a lot of things that I’ve been thinking about my evolution of empowerment is something that you want to create in other people. Yeah. But there are many pathways to do that. And I’ve come to reconcile this in a concept known as conseguido. Thanks to Mark Joyner, and a shout out to him for giving me a little bit of insight into the business of branding, kind of, but also trying to reconcile the sense of self awareness and what it is that I typically do. I believe that everybody eventually encounters a breaking point. And I don’t think it’s just one breaking point. I think you encounter many, many breaking points.
I’ve experienced dozens of them throughout the course of my life. And some people may think oh, so sad. No, I don’t think it’s a sad thing to be broken. I think a breaking point is actually a turning point. It’s also an evolution, right. So think about the butterfly breaking out of the chrysalis to cite a frequently used metaphor, you have to break through the original chrysalis in order to actually become that new creature of yours, right. So I believe that this goes back to the the concept of kintsugi, which in Japan, is what happens when you use gold and gold lacquer to kind of like seal the cracks in all pottery. So if you’ve got an antique and you’ve broken it, you utilize gold in order to fuse the parts together so that they still hold and it’s not fragile anymore. In fact, this is a process of becoming anti-fragile. So I believe that everybody goes through this series of processes you you reach a certain peak, you get broken, you go to a next peak, and then you get broken again. And I don’t think that’s unfair. I think in fact, that’s probably a passage of life.
If you’re not broken and you’re feeling triumphant in your business, of course, you’re going to gravitate towards business because you seem unstoppable. And yet back at home, your kids are driving you crazy. So everybody goes through breaking periods. I have no doubt about that. And if you feel that you’ve got something that you want to get off your chest, feel free to comment down below below. Very happy to answer, take a look at them and perhaps even do even more videos on my reflections about what you guys have said, I classify kintsugi as a healing process.
And I have not only embraced myself as a speaker, as a trainer as a coach, I’m also a healer. And I know that sounds like a weird thing to say for some people. But let’s put it this way. I’m a psychotherapist, I’m a trained counselor, I deal with traumas, I work with people’s phobias, I get people sorted out whenever people have a problem with things that are intangible. I mean, for things that are tangible, it’s very easy. In my opinion, goal setting, salt solves a lot of problems, right. So if you want to lose five kilograms, it’s a no-brainer, because the science is already out there. But if you’re thinking about healing a relationship, that’s really tough, because it’s so intangible. And that’s where I come into picture. I mean, personally, I’ve gone through my own relationship failures, some of you know about it. But as time goes by, you realize that you can only get wiser once you start doing a process of reflection.
And I have so many things to say about personal reflection, I will leave that to another video. More importantly, the brain dump process is likely to help you guys to start thinking about your own philosophy of living. Whenever a person gets broken, the last thing that you want to do is to just sweep the pieces under the carpet. That’s silly, right? Just think about the real life implications, you break a glass or you break a bowl and you just swept it under the carpet, what’s going to be the eventual result is that just going to get hurt even more. So what you want to do is to learn how to heal so that the idea came about when I said, Look, Wolverine has a super human healing factor. And that’s what brings his strength, right in the ability for him to utilize adamantium and stuff like that.
Last night, there was a replay of Kung Fu Panda. And we know that Kung Fu Panda has capabilities, not in his claws, or his ability to strike quickly, or to be unseen or to fly or whatever it is, is not those tools, his capabilities, his resilience is sheer ability to take punishment, right. So if you think about that, if you’re gonna be able to take punishment, it must mean that there’s this ability for you to innately heal faster than you break. And that was a big revelation for me. So I feel that this year, well, this Lunar New Year, which is about the Year of the Ox, the Year of the Ox represents strength, and in strength represents resilience. And in resilience means that you bounce back. But then there are people who don’t bounce back immediately doesn’t mean that they don’t have resilience, it merely means that they are in a process or a journey of growth. Sometimes it takes months, sometimes even years just to overcome a particular hurt. I know some of you are undergoing certain kinds of challenges suffering, because you keep thinking about moments of the past, and you hold on to a lot of resentment. Now, resentment is like trying to heal the broken pieces by putting, you know, weak glue to it. Right? Maybe you’re putting plasticine on it, you know, is fragile is just gonna break again, in my opinion, I think you need to really learn the art of consider to take a look at the gold linings or the silver linings in any kind of breakage, and use that as a means to evolve so that you know that as time goes by, you’re going to encounter even more breakage. And let’s be very honest, life is not always fair for some of you, you’ve gone through your fair share of problems.
But you see everybody encounters problems in different ways. So some people may encounter problems and they embrace it. And some of you might actually say, look, if they’re embracing it, maybe it’s not as difficult as my problem. But let’s be fair, you know, you don’t really know what other people are thinking. So even a small little break is going to cause potentially a lot of suffering inside a person and that suffering is not so easy. If it’s the first time you’re experiencing it. I still remember one of those days where I went to run a training program and I had a bunch of millennials and I was talking about how they need to embrace suffering because they have not embraced enough suffering. They literally went and complained and said that oh, you know, I’m speaking ill of them talking down to them. That was not really my intention. I think what happens is that when you are given a lot of choice, and you’re prosperous, and you’re well off, you’re good, right? Nobody wants to put a raft into stormy weather, though, right? If you’re strong only in favorable circumstances, then you’re not really strong.
Let’s just put it this way. So you need something that can weather the storm. And I’ll probably talk about that in greater detail later on. But the idea of conseguido is even if you get hit by the storm, you heal so fast that you can go into the thick of battle again. And I think it’s important for you to recognize that any one of the scars that you experience in life, just nothing more than a revelation of your character. In other words, how do you stand up to it? Did you go and beat other people up because of it? Or did you resent other people, or on the flip side, did you embrace it become a stronger person so that you could empathize with other people going through similar problems. So the start of the blog is really to get everybody engaged again.
And, you know, I’ve got a YouTube channel, which is a little bit more formal in nature, you’ll notice I won’t bother really cutting up my pauses and stuff like that on my vlog, because it’s going to be a bit more ad lib, more vulnerable. And I hope that this is a style that you guys will like, Any case, this is the start of something new and with the start of something new, I really don’t know how it’s going to go along. But I do hope that it will inspire more people to in spite of difficulties challenges continue to build resilience towards the future. So you know, I wish all of you the very best and until the next vlog, I will see you and all the best in keeping healthy, strong and continuing to stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone.